Post-Adoption Blues

Post Adoption Blues Over people adopt children each year and than million parents are now raising adopted children and grandchildren While the path to parenting through adoption is rich with rewards and fulfil

  • Title: Post-Adoption Blues
  • Author: Karen J. Foli
  • ISBN: 9781579548667
  • Page: 203
  • Format: Paperback
  • Over 150,000 people adopt children each year, and than 2 million parents are now raising adopted children and grandchildren While the path to parenting through adoption is rich with rewards and fulfillment, it s not without its bumps This compassionate, illuminating, and ultimately uplifting book is the first to openly recognize the very normal feelings of stress thOver 150,000 people adopt children each year, and than 2 million parents are now raising adopted children and grandchildren While the path to parenting through adoption is rich with rewards and fulfillment, it s not without its bumps This compassionate, illuminating, and ultimately uplifting book is the first to openly recognize the very normal feelings of stress that adoptive families encounter as they cope with the challenges and expectations of their new families Where do parents turn when the waited for bonding with their adopted child is slow to form When they find themselves grieving over the birth child they couldn t have When the child they so eagerly welcomed into their home arrives with major, unexpected needs Until now, adoptive parents have had to struggle silently with their feelings, which can range from flutters of anxiety to unbearable sadness At last, Karen J Foli, a registered nurse, and her husband, John R Thompson, a psychiatrist, lift the curtain of secrecy from Post Adoption Depression Syndrome PADS Drawing on their own experience as adoptive parents as well as interviews with dozens of adoptive families and experts in the field, the couple offers parents the understanding, support, and concrete solutions they need to overcome post adoption blues and open their hearts to the joy adoption can bring.

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    1. I wouldn't say I enjoyed this book, but I needed it. An honest, open look at the stress and struggles that can come with bringing home an adopted baby, much like the stress and struggles that come with bringing home a biological baby. The difference? Adoptive parents seem to feel even more guilty about struggling -- after all, we've worked so hard to find this child and bring him/her home that it seems wrong somehow to have a hard time with it. I'd definitely recommend for adopting parents.

    2. For much of this book, I felt like it was a collection of negative stories about adoption. I wished that the topics, though hard, would have been addressed in a more hopeful manner. As the book progressed, I did learn several things and the book made me think about certain aspects of adoption that I hadn't considered before.

    3. I was really disappointed in this book.The authors present a lot of myths that people believe about adoption alongside stories that demonstrate that the myths aren't true. These stories are all sad and often demonstrate challenging situations. But the authors present almost no truth alongside the myths.This book is also not focused on international adoption. It also presents some specifics of domestic and kinship adoption.I've found many of the other books that we've read have actually equipped [...]

    4. This book offers a practical and reality-based approach to the myriad feelings that come along after adoption, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. They have structured each chapter around a set of expectations, how those expectations may not be realistic, and finally how to cope with those facts. For example: expectations of yourself, of your spouse, of the birthparent(s), of your adopted child, of your extended family, your social workers, society, etc. I very much appreciated that the authors were wi [...]

    5. Definitely an eye-opening read! A potential adoptive parent encounters dozens of books going over the process of adoption, the stages of growth from infancy through adolescence, as well as ideas for having fun and nurturing a child. This book addresses a darker and less-disclosed reality that even after the arduous process, even after the child of your dreams is in your house, there are still hurdles to be overcome. I'm glad I am aware that "post-adoption depression" is a thing! Imagine the guil [...]

    6. This book addresses the struggles that a parent can have after adopting a child. It covers everything from the parent-child relationship not developing as expected, the intrusiveness of strangers who feel they can ask anything about your family's history, the stress of having to sell yourself as "the perfect parent," and the different treatment that adoptive parents receive compared to biological parents. It is a great resource, and will probably be even more helpful after we (hopefully) are abl [...]

    7. I really loved this book because it's the only one of its kind so far! It takes research from post partum and knowledge and experience from working with adoptive parents and combines it all in one place! We need more good research and evidence based practice on this field and I was so happy to have this book to educate and prevent some post adoption depression. A must read for those adoption and working in adoption.

    8. The book focuses on three main topics: expectations of yourself as a parent, your expectations of your child. Overall, the book provides the future parents with practical knowledge, that isn't idealistic or unrealistic, that they can use post-placement. Well-organized. Very practical.

    9. This was required reading for our adoption agency. There was a lot of information that I am glad I am aware of, but because of the nature of the book, post-adoption depression, it was a "downer" book. Hopefully I will not need to reference much.

    10. I wish I had read this book before I adopted my first son, it would have helped me process what I was feeling. While not perfect, the book helps you understand that what you may be feeling is not "wrong" but part of the process for some.

    11. Yeah. This book was kind of depressing. I guess I should have gotten that from the title. Things that hadn't worried about I began to think, "should I be worrying about this, too?" Maybe I would have understood it more post-adoption.

    12. Well organized, useful information. Addresses not just "depression" but a wide range of expectations that might trip you up.

    13. The book was required reading as prep for our upcoming adoption. This book is about the reality of parenting/ adoption. Good info to tuck away for future use when needed.

    14. Not the best written book ever, pretty choppy and a little dry, but very insightful, affirming, and useful to people walking this similar, but always unique path.

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