The Sociopath Next Door

The Sociopath Next Door Who is the devil you know Is it your lying cheating ex husband Your sadistic high school gym teacher Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings The colleague who stole your idea and passed i

  • Title: The Sociopath Next Door
  • Author: Martha Stout
  • ISBN: null
  • Page: 110
  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • Who is the devil you know Is it your lying, cheating ex husband Your sadistic high school gym teacher Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own In the pages of The Sociopath Next Door, you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood He s a sociopath And your boss, teacher, and colleague TWho is the devil you know Is it your lying, cheating ex husband Your sadistic high school gym teacher Your boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings The colleague who stole your idea and passed it off as her own In the pages of The Sociopath Next Door, you will realize that your ex was not just misunderstood He s a sociopath And your boss, teacher, and colleague They may be sociopaths too.We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people one in twenty five has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse One in twenty five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt How do we recognize the remorseless One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths charming or interesting than the other people around them They re spontaneous, intense, complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others suffering They live to dominate and thrill to win The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or sociopaths already Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for is a sociopath But what do we do with that knowledge To arm us against the sociopath, Dr Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.

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    1. DOES THE AUTHOR HAVE A CONSCIENCE?What I liked about this book: It is very well written. Dr. Stout’s ghostwriter is exceptionally gifted and the book has a delightfully brisk pace, very clear language, and (mostly) smooth transitions.Its substance, however, is cartoonish pop psychology masquerading as information. It draws its popularity from the same source as the The Da Vinci Code, under-informed, uncritical readers with a penchant for sensationalism; mostly [redacted]. In the hands of its i [...]

    2. An entertaining and informative book, the thesis of which is that the conscienceless among us are not restricted to the serial killers, CEO's, lawyers and politicians among us, but may also be teachers, doctors, nurses, clergy--anyone who is impervious to the bond of love and cares about nothing but power and the ability to manipulate other people. They are but 4% of the total population--1 in 25--and the principal comfort the rest of us can take is not only that we outnumber them but also that [...]

    3. Somehow or other this review lost it's original story. I don't know how, so I'm putting it in. Not so much because it is a review of the book (it isn't) but because I never want to forget it, I want to set it down. Living next door to a sociopath is terrible, one of the worst things you an imagine. I want to remember it properly and this was the story. The part of the review that remains is the end story that led up to the finale as it were, that I wrote at the time it was happening. So I've lef [...]

    4. This book has sparked more re-evaluation by me than any other book I've read for quite some time. The good news is that 96% of people have a conscience. The bad news is that 4% don't, and they can be a real problem, especially because their destructiveness may go undetected for some time. The author postulates that conscience is based on the ability to have emotional attachment to other people. Sociopaths are incapable of such attachments. They see other people as objects which are to be dominat [...]

    5. There's a whole lot of fear mongering going on here. The Sociopath Next Door, I'd give it 2.5. I keep going back and forth between 2 and 3 stars. According to Martha Stout, just about everyone knows a few sociopaths.DUH. I know two people for sure that I used to work withey were chilling. I may even be related to one. But the author gets a little dramatic. Yes, these people are ruthless, they don't care about anyone's feelings (they really don't have many of their own). But if you keep your eye' [...]

    6. If given the opportunity to read a text about sociopathy and its prevalence, don't bother reading Stout's work. Instead, read "Without Conscience" by the psychologist Hare. Hare's work on sociopathy is notable in the field, and after reading it, you will be shocked to notice that entire sections of "The Sociopath Next Door" appear to be lifted from "Without Conscience," slightly reworded, and placed into the text. "The Sociopath Next Door" is still an interesting book, but it is at best a 'see s [...]

    7. ***NO SPOILERS***Two aspects of this book are noticeably fitting from the start: its cover design and its title. The cover’s zoomed-in focus on three pairs of eyes has significance that's unclear until many pages in, a significance that no doubt will startle and intrigue. As for the title, it might sound somewhat melodramatic, but it underscores one of Stout’s most important points; if there’s one thing she wanted to make very clear it’s that sociopaths (sometimes called “psychopaths [...]

    8. You know that neighbor of yours who ignores you when you say hello to him in the hall? Well, he might not be just a garden-variety jerk -- he may beA SOCIOPATH!! In fact, four percent of the United States' population is composed of sociopaths. You know what this means, don't you? TROUBLE!!That might as well be the flap copy of Martha Stout's book, which doesn't seek to enlighten so much as to inflame. Stout throws out a lot of scary-sounding statistics cobbled together with some vaguely philosop [...]

    9. This is a good, though somewhat light (being intended for the pop-psych crowd) description of just what a sociopath is, what makes them tick, how to recognize them, and how to avoid them. It's not full of gruesome crimes or case studies, because Stout's key message is that sociopaths, for the most part, are not psychotic serial killers. They are seemingly ordinary people who can live ordinary lives fooling most everyone around them. And if you do realize that someone is a sociopath, there isn't [...]

    10. Let's get this out of the way - I find the idea of sociopathy (some call it psychopathy, others call it anti-social personality disorder) infinitely fascinating. The fact that some people can go about their lives with the inability to love, the inability to form emotional attachments and a pure and total lack of empathy for their fellow man is as interesting as it is terrifying. In practice, sociopathy is a scary thing. I have a feeling I have crossed paths with more than one sociopathic person [...]

    11. Wow--4% of those around us areciopaths! Don't read this book if you have a tendency to be paranoid. I'm now looking around me now wondering, "Is SHE a sociopath? Is HE?"A sociopath is someone without conscience (in short, they cannot love or attach value to other living things). One WITH conscience cannot fathom what this might even be like, and "sociopath" seems like such an extreme label, so the non-sociopaths rarely identify sociopaths as sociopaths ("we" make excuses for their questionable b [...]

    12. Let me begin by saying, I'm not a psychologist and honestly, I know very little about it. I took two psychology classes in college years ago and that's about the extent of my knowledge. I did, however, love this book. It was comprised mostly of case studies and Dr. Stout's 25 years of experiences dealing with clients who have been affected and harmed by sociopaths in their lives. It discusses how manipulative, deceitful, charming, personable and fake a sociopath can be and the lengths one would [...]

    13. In a reprehensible mix of lowest common denominator psychology, fear-mongering, and insultingly juvenile "real life" examples, Martha Stout explores the claim that one in every 25 people is a sociopath in The Sociopath Next Door. If the conceit of the book isn't enough to send you packing, be prepared to sit through poorly supported claims, Intro to Psychology theorizing, and unbelievable religious moralizing toward the people who Stout describes simply, and without much extroplation, as those c [...]

    14. I wish that every mood, developmental, personality and every other kind of disorder catalogued by those wonderful folks over at the DSM had a book written about it the way sociopathy does. I'd like to read like a billion page DSM where every single disorder had a nice book like this under its heading. First on my wishlist would be borderline personality disorder. Then Aspberger's.In fact this book, writing-quality-wise, is sort of on the level of a stretched-out Newsweek article, maybe. Yeah, a [...]

    15. The author asks “Why have a conscience?” She argues that being truly human entails having one, and warns the majority of us about the four percent of people who are sociopaths. This is a chilling book. I have met people who fit her description. One need not be a serial killer to be a sociopath. One needs only to be immune to caring about the humanity of others. P 3 It chafes to be so free of the ridiculous inner voice that inhibits others from achieving great power, without having enough tal [...]

    16. The Sociopath Next Doorby Martha StoutA few months ago I was given the opportunity to read “The Sociopath Next Door” and before doing so I chose to look it up on , to see what my fellow readers thought of it. The reviews were not encouraging. I looked elsewhere for something to read. Then, a few days ago a family member bought the audio book version (from iTunes), and I had nothing else to listen to while gardening. I’m deeply glad that fate intervened. I can completely understand why peop [...]

    17. A familiar stranger came into my life last year he pulled one after another of the power games Stout details in her book at first I could not even open this book, recommended to me by my physician, because it was eerily and creepily too real for me. Once I did though, I couldn't put it down. Martha Stout describes this kind of person (and the individual I knew) so thoroughly that it is altogether frightening. I did not believe such people exist now I know first hand that they do. Reviewers who p [...]

    18. Uh I'm quitting this book. A lot of it is just very "no duh." Maybe I'M a sociopath but I don't give a shit about this book anymore

    19. সামারি টাইপ, পুরোটাই স্পয়লার। এই বই পড়ার ন্যুনতম আগ্রহ থাকলে এটা পড়বেন না।“What is important to you in your life? What do you want more than anything else?” I thought he might say “getting money,” or “staying out of jail,” which were the activities to which he devoted most of his time. Instead, without a moment's hesitation, he replied, “Oh, that's easy. What I [...]

    20. I found this book to be fascinating. I originally picked this book up as part of my research for a novel, but I didn't expect to be so entertained by it. It's a sad truth that statistically one in 25 people you will meet in life is a sociopath (per the book), and I have found that to be somewhat accurate as I've met two truly conscienceless people in my life. While I wouldn't say this is the only book on the subject, it definitely made for an engaging read.

    21. Like Hare's book this one focuses more on the examples rather than actual reasons and scientific explanations. A pity, but as both books state the reasons behind psychopathy are mostly unknown so maybe one shouldn't expect too much. The culture-point was intriguing but it wasn't explored enough, the exploration of the importance of our conscience was rather interesting as well. I'd recommend to read it in combination with Hare's book (read this one after Hare's). They are similar, or rather this [...]

    22. Well, this book is certainly readable; it manages to avoid the dry, academia-laden style that many of these Pop-Psychology books brings to to the table.Beyond that, I've not much to say about it; despite the lurid title ("Ruthless vs the Rest of us"? REALLY?), it's not particuarly "Alarmist", per se, but it does encourage readers (some of whom would presumably be lay-people like me) to judge their immediate circles, and ascribe qualities or issues to these people that are not necessarily there. [...]

    23. A valuable piece of information to possess in today's world. These people operate on a level of cunning and deception that normal people would not even consider. It's important to know that there are among us those who have no soul and do not make decisions based on anyone's feelings but their own. If you don't think that way, you don't suspect them. And they are masters at being charming, helpful, generous and sensitive while they are figuring out where you are vulnerable. Then POW! You say you [...]

    24. I definitely recommend this book, but it also left me with more questions than answers, and there were some elements of her argument that frustrated or troubled me. A sociopath (also called a psychopath, or somebody diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder) is a person without conscience, someone who cannot feel love, remorse, or shame. Roughly 4% of Americans can be diagnosed as sociopaths. Stout is a respected researcher and clinical practitioner, and although this is a brief, popular in [...]

    25. For many years we’ve been friends with this guy whom I’ll call Steve. Steve is an upstanding member of the community, has a picture-perfect All-American family, a respectable job, and a wide circle of friends. He comes across as charming and very friendly, and seems to be very eager to help and please those around him. However, after getting to know him just a little bit better all these aspects of Steve’s life appear to be an act. Steve is in fact extremely competitive even over the dumbe [...]

    26. This audible book raise a lot of issues for me and made me think. And yet I didn't feel like it was an awfully good book because it never really helped me understand what a sociopath is and how a person becomes one. The psychologist who wrote the book seems somehow in her career to have run across quite a few. And she gave a number of examples of people with this disability as she indicated that 4% of people in the world are sociopathic.The book starts out with a story of a man who heads off to [...]

    27. I read this book last month to help me be able to identify people who will try to hurt me.That sounds paranoid!I deal with the near-public on an almost continuous public, however, and that "public" quickly becomes the group of folks I deal with every day of the week. I have to work with them closely, I have to try to teach them, and I end up living with them in my head for those seven days of the week. It's not the best thing for me to do, but it is what happens. They pop up in my mind. At the e [...]

    28. "The Sociopath Next Door" delivers both good and bad news. The good news is, not all sociopaths are violent murderers or serial killers. The bad news is, you probably know a sociopath. Maybe even more than one.By some estimates, as many as 1 in 25 people have this mental aberration, making them impervious to the pain or the feelings of others. Sociopaths have no ability to feel pity, empathy, guilt, or love. Sociopaths are completely devoid of conscience.How to spot them? Well now, that's the tr [...]

    29. I thought this was a useful book that can explain anti-social personality disorders in a straightforward way that a layman can understand. It's short and I've used this information to in turn derive specific examples in explaining sociopathy to others. Everyone should read this because you will recognize those puzzling people you've wondered, "What the" because their behavior didn't make sense, their motives seemed unclear and therefore were confusing. Sociopaths do not run on the same logic and [...]

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