How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Listen So Kids Will Talk You can stop fighting with your children Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know how you need to be effective with your children and supportive of yourself Enthusiastically praised by

  • Title: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
  • Author: Adele Faber Elaine Mazlish
  • ISBN: 9781451663884
  • Page: 177
  • Format: Paperback
  • You can stop fighting with your children Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know how you need to be effective with your children and supportive of yourself Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down to earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ageYou can stop fighting with your children Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know how you need to be effective with your children and supportive of yourself Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down to earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and rewarding Now, in this thirtieth anniversary edition, these award winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based on feedback they ve received over the years.Their methods of communication illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action offer innovative ways to solve common problems You ll learn how Cope with your child s negative feelings frustration, disappointment, anger, etc Express your anger without being hurtful Engage your child s willing cooperation Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill Use alternatives to punishment Resolve family conflicts peacefully

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    1. Should be subtitled, "Baby Boomer Parents Backlash Against Harsh Old-School Discipline." If you weren't the kind of parent to call your kids names or whup them one on the rear end in the first place, this book has little to offer you but either validation or frustration. I was looking for a book that would help me communicate better with my very stubborn 2.5 year old, and while the cartoons in this book were pretty entertaining, they didn't do much more but revisit the obvious. Don't live throug [...]

    2. A friend, a previous yeller, recommended this book. I found it very helpful, especially since we just had our second child who had colic and the 6 year old and I were no longer communicating well. It teaches a way to talk that names emotions, and acknowledges the emotions that often a child cannot articulate. For example, instead of saying "You shouldn't be mad at your brother, he's only three!" you say "I can see that it makes you angry when he messes up your things. But yelling is not allowed [...]

    3. There is good advice in here if you don't already employ many of the suggestions herein. Since I already do, I didn't find it any sort of revelation. I read it in the hopes of finding a way to make my 4-year-old listen to me on the subject of "DON'T RUN AWAY FROM MOM AND DAD, PARTICULARLY IN A CROWDED PLACE - IT IS NOT A GAME", but was disappointed to find no help on that front. I'm afraid "Sweetie, please don't run away - it makes us worried" and "How do YOU think we can help you to stop runnin [...]

    4. Oh dude this book is awesome! It's intended as a guide for parents and educators to help them communicate with kids, but instead I got my hands on it when I was about nine years old, and it helped me refine my own immature communication skills. A life-changing book for me, for all the wrong reasons.

    5. I read this book about 5 years ago. At that time the boys were 3 and 1. I appreciated the book then, but absolutely adore this book today. This book was first published in 1982, but when it comes to parenting I think that the really good advice is timeless. In re-reading "How to talk" I am discovering that many of the times when I am most effective/happy with myslelf as a mom I am using the principals that I read in Faber and Mazlish's wonderful work. The book is an extraordinarily valuable tool [...]

    6. الكتاب رائع رائع رائع. عادة لا اثق بهذا النوع من الكتب لكن طبقته على اولاد خالتي وصدمت. الطفل يحتاج لمن يسمعه ويحتاج للتعبير عن مشاعره سواء عبر الكلام او الرسم . الطفل لا يفهم المحاضرات الطويلة العريضة التي يلقيها الكبار جملة قصيرة وكلمات تقال بطريقة حازمة كافية لجعله يفهم. و [...]

    7. VERY applicable whether you're dealing with a 3-year-old, your spouse, your boss, or your 80-year-old neighbor. This is one of my most recommended books to families doing therapy.I actually currently use parts of this in group therapy sessions to teach adolescents in a therapeutic boarding school how to handle family conflicts. And we do role-plays based on its comic-strip-style illustrations and draw application to their every-day lives. It's so successful, they want me to tell their therapists [...]

    8. حينما تقرأ خاتمة هذا الكتاب ستعرف بأنه "باكورة" مشروع لن ينتهي، ومشاريع تمت فعلا. كتاب واقعي بمعايير عالية جدا بسيط في أسلوبه صريح وقوي في مواجهته لعيوب التربية مميز في وضعه لتمارين داخله يمكن تنفيذها بكل سهولة. دليل عملي لابد من الرجوع إليه عدة مرات. يواجه الأهل بضعفهم و يرشد [...]

    9. It's more effective than a medical prescription!!Very simple cards of instructins make you feel better about yourself and your childIt gave me the feeling that everyone can be perfect parent , but we have to keep it in mind :)HAPPY READING

    10. Read this. Reading it again. And again. And again.A powerful tool. Recommended by my pediatrician to help us communicate more effectively with our ADHD twin boys. But this is a great resource for all children and their parents. Quick and easy to read. Not too dry or preachy. Timeless advice.Other reviews have suggested this book is for "REALLY bad" parents who don't have "a clue" how to speak to their children. Or that this book will teach you "emotionless parenting" and fails to address how and [...]

    11. Don't believe people reading on their Kindle in the métro are only 50-Shades types, they may simply hide that they are reading self-help or parenting books. I was actually quite ashamed of reading this one, which I got as a Daily Deal on . It turned out to have extremely ugly cartoons, commonsense principles ("it may not be that good an idea to hit your child") and relatively good advice. As the title suggests it's all about unprejudiced communication between parents and children. You may not b [...]

    12. كتاب رائع ,وهو كما يقول العنوان ,كيف تتحدث الى الصغار ,يخبرك الكتاب كيف تحترم مشاعر الصغير وكيف تتعامل مع الطفل العنيد او البليد ,يخبرك كيف تحسن من كلماتك ومفرداتك لينصت اليك الصغير وكي لاتكون انت سببا في سوء اخلاق صغيرك ,قرأته بداية لاعرف كيف اتعامل مع اختى الصغيرة وان كنت سا [...]

    13. من أجمل الكتب التربوية الي قرأتها و اثر في تفكيري تاثير كبيركتاب سلس سهل،.ممتع في قراءتهكله تجارب و أمثلة واقعية من مواقف الاباء مع أبنائهم وتطبيقهم للمهارات الموجودة في الكتاب و نتائجهافيه تمرينات على كل فصل للاباء على استخدام المهاراتو مدعم بصور توضيحية لأمثلة للمواقف بي [...]

    14. A bit of a mixed bag. It has some useful insights and ideas that I want to try out, but also is heavily in the lets collaborate with our kids to see if we can come to a mutually agreeable solution camp, which I have yet to buy into. I tried some of the techniques in the book in the following scenario: My 9 year old daughter often leaves the sink a mess after brushing her teeth. I would normally just tell her, "go clean out the sink" and she would, possibly accompanied by a roll of the eyes or at [...]

    15. Philosophically I agree with the discipline practices this book explains, but the examples with parents smacking their kids or labeling them with words like "greedy" felt so extreme that it was sometimes hard to read through it to get to what the authors advocated one should do. I did appreciate the tips pages on helping children deal with their feelings, engaging a child's cooperation, alternatives to punishment, and alternative to "no". The chapter on praise is one of the best explanations I'v [...]

    16. من الكتب المفيدة جدا في فهم الأولاد بالطريقة الصحيحة التي تتفهم مشاعرهم عندما يتصرفون بطريقة لا تعجبنا ، تدرك من خلال هذا الكتاب ابعاد في شخصية اولادك لم تكن تلتفت لها سوف تراجع كل ردات فعلك السابقة وتحاول بناء ردات فعل مناسبة لتحقيق تربية أكثر عمقاً لأحاسيسهم وقدراتهم وتمن [...]

    17. يمتاز هذا الكتاب بأسلوب رائع موجز ورسوم كاريكاتورية لطيفة توصل المعلومة بطريقة مبتكرة ولا شك أن في الكتب المترجمة ما فيها من مخالفات تفرضها مجتمعات الغرب الغارقة في وهم الحرية لكن الكتاب يقدم أسلوبا ممتازا لاحتواء الطفل والتعامل مع مشكلاته بمهارة. من أروع الكتب التربوية ا [...]

    18. I read until about 50% mark. I flatly refuse to write notes from discarded toys and towels, find "I-speak" problematic (IMO, this may teach kids, later teens, to prioritize their emotions, instead of what and why should be done - sorry, I teach/ used to teach high school/ uni students), and shudder at the thought of using therapy-speak to children (it might be effective, but a) I have a moral problem with it, and b) no one will ever talk like that to them for free when they're adults). On the wh [...]

    19. I was given this book as a gift and I don't have kids. So, I'm probably not the intended audience. That said, the writing was easy to read and get through, and the advice seemed generally sound. If I ever have kids some day, the lessons I learned might be very useful. Hard to know, since I don't have a lot of experience with children.The advice in the book was derived from counseling sessions helping parents with children who were having serious behavioral problems. While the authors argue that [...]

    20. I haven't even finished this book but I had to return it to the library (BOO) so I'm going to buy it. Becuase it's THAT good. After reading the first two chapters I'm already hugely more aware of how I talk and listen to my children. Using the techniques in this book I have stopped tantrums before they could begin and have seen conversations with my kids miraculously changed.I'm not even kidding.I would recommend this book to anyone. We've even seen the principles work great with our three year [...]

    21. This book offers great, common sense advice. It focuses on communication between parents and children, something that is so essential to your relationship. The whole book is great, but I particularly like the cartoons which show you two alternative approaches to a conversation, one where parent and child are talking at each other and end up at odds, and the other where they are listening and responding and end up on the same side. Check out the 'turtle' cartoon - it's priceless.I also loved its [...]

    22. I love this book! It was recommended to a room of teachers by a child psychologist who said that she recommends this book to any parent who walks through her door. I can see why. It is easy to read and understand. It uses common sense practices -but better help one to see them.Basically, when I employ these practices -we're a happier family. When I don't -I go re-read the book. This stuff even works on strangers kids. It's really about a way of looking at and talking to children that respects th [...]

    23. Cute cartoon strips make it a non stressful read. A discussion on helping children talk through their problems to come to solutions. This treats interacting with children as an art form and is not a parenting book with hard and fast rules.

    24. Update: Just bought all the books on . Methinks its one of those bookmarkable leaf through for inspiration series. ALL THE STARS. This may be my favourite book of the year. Everything made so much sense and when you look at it so simple. Its just we have to retrain our brains to acknowledge the more healing and right way to deal with feelings and behaviour while also not suppressing our own negative or positive feelings. Communication! So simple yet so ground breaking. Wheeee!Sorry I just love t [...]

    25. I have owned the book for years but decided to listen to the audio. The book has activities and worksheets to use as you learn the methods. Highly recommend this book especially if you have school age children (although still beneficial for effective communication with toddlers)!It was easy listening--loved the reader!

    26. Such a good book full of good advice and very practical examples even though it was written at a time when examples include taking phone messages and putting the records in their sleeves. 😆

    27. LOVE this book!!! HIGHLY recommend to any and all parents. A great resource to give you more ideas on how to raise your children.

    28. Đây là một quyển sách dành cho cha mẹ.Thật sự, từ ngày có con, mình đọc rất nhiều sách dạy con nhưng chưa quyển nào cảm thấy tâm đắc như quyển này. Đây là quyển sách của hai tiến sĩ, một người là mẹ của ba đứa con, đã tổ chức một câu lạc bộ dành cho cha mẹ. Trong những câu lạc bộ đó, các bậc cha mẹ cùng với tiến sĩ trao đổi những cách giúp con cái của họ thay đổi hành vi the [...]

    29. I honestly grabbed this book because it was on the buy two, get one free shelf at Barnes and Nobles, and I figured, eh, why not? In the end, I think it is one of the best books on basically communication that I have ever read. There are so many good strategies, and frankly you can use them with your kids and with EVERYONE. I think it is especially applicable to elder care as well. I am actually really surprised that as a teacher I had not stumbled on this book yet because I think it is really he [...]

    30. At some point of desperation I put several books on parenting on hold at my library. Due to varying degrees of popularity they've trickled in one by one and I've been reading a parenting book about every 3 to 4 weeks. I was a little tired of it by the time I got to this one, but because it took me so long to get it on hold I thought I'd go for it.This long story was to say-I loved it! It was positive, upbeat and very helpful. I can't identify with the extremes they use in this book but I still c [...]

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