Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel

Nice Girls Don t Get the Corner Office Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers Lois P Frankel In the bestselling tradition of Play Like a Man Win Like a Woman comes this groundbreaking book offering advice every woman needs to know to stop sabotaging her own career and get ahead in the work

  • Title: Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel
  • Author: Lois P. Frankel
  • ISBN: 9780446695770
  • Page: 100
  • Format: Unknown Binding
  • In the bestselling tradition of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman , comes this groundbreaking book offering advice every woman needs to know to stop sabotaging her own career and get ahead in the workplace.

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    1. This book had some useful advice, although I think it was over-generalized and really meant for women working at large "corporate America" type companies. As a female who just recently started a career at a small (but very successful) family-owned business, I don't feel like all of these rules necessarily apply to my situation. But I had larger issues with this book. First, I found that the author seems to use men's behavior as the standard for how the workplace should function. She frequently s [...]

    2. As cliched as it sounds, this book was a revelation to me. As a young feminist who is just starting out in her career, I was relatively certain that the professional world would have changed since Frankel wrote her book and that acting in a professional (yet reserved) fashion would be sufficient in today's workplace. Clearly, I was mistaken (although not as much as I thought).Frankel first has the reader take a 49 question quiz, which is able to determine which of the eight areas are both your s [...]

    3. I could not make it through this book because it infuriated me so much.To begin, the book is horribly sexist, insisting that women should change their behavior because "you don't see men doing it," "it accents your femininity," etc. Over and over again, the author implies that the feminine is somehow lesser and that masculinity is the ideal that everyone should strive for. While fine for someone who just wants to play the game, it's an insult to those who want to change it; the problem in the wo [...]

    4. Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office 101 by Lois P. Frankel is a book that all women should receive upon graduation from college. It is amazing what we, the female gender, do to undermine ourselves without realizing it. Many of us, who come from homes that were supportive and definitely didn't pigeonhold us into the subservient female role, would never imagine how much we have picked up from the social cues and trends around us. Though, until recently, I would have not realized that I suffered [...]

    5. This is the first book I read from the bibliography of Anne Kreamer's It's Always Personal: Navigating Emotion in the New Workplace, and I found it much more skills-based and practical. The author's main theme is, "Quit being a girl," by which she means to toot your own horn and stand up for yourself because high quality work alone won't get you noticed and promoted. The corporate world is prejudiced against girls and can't envision them beyond the secretarial pool. Women, in contrast, get ahead [...]

    6. Easy to read and some quite useful tips. (It would be nice if someday, we, as a society, ever get to a time when men aren't advantaged in business by their sex and women didn't have to make themselves over just to get ahead.)

    7. I must confess that I started this book with a lot of skepticism. I am a feminist and I do not like to be told what I need to change in order to fit to a men's world. I would always prefer to change the world.Besides that, the fact that the heading of each mini chapter is always titled mistake # (and that goes on from mistake #1 - t0 mistake #300+) got my head fuming. It is direct yes, but also pretty arrogant.Those two points aside, I would recommend every woman to read this book. Not only girl [...]

    8. This book was exciting at first, but then turn to uncomfortable. First, It made me feel that being a Girl itself is a guilt, acting like a girl, thinking like a girl is not recommended in work place. So basically this book tell people "how to act like a man" because high positions are mostly held by man. If you "don't see a man do this, you should not do this" (!!!?!) . Second, it provide too many no right- no wrong recommend for both gender, but still emphasize only female worker often do this [...]

    9. I just finished reading this book in an effort to teach myself how to stop doing all of those little things that sabotage the advancement of my career. I'm not currently looking for a new job (even though I should be) but I'd still like to work on improving my skills and stop downplaying my abilities.Things I already know: I act nice to get people on my side, meanwhile, forgetting about my own needs because I want everyone to like me. I also say "I'm sorry" a lot and don't know how to toot my ow [...]

    10. Another book with a tacky title that I have bypassed every time I've seen it. But browsing in the library one day I decided to give it a try and I'm glad I did. I always knew that I was a typical girl in finding it difficult to negotiate money, but I thought that was it. After reading through this book (which doesn't take long as you can easily skip over irrelevant sections), I have realized that I actually am making a bunch of 'mistakes' at work that are not benefiting my career. This book help [...]

    11. I had an epiphany-like moment over and over again when Frankel points out that when people shame a woman for unladylike behavior, it's not because there is such a shameful thing as unladylike behavior, it's because it's the easiest and most effective means of getting whatever it is they want out of you. Because we've been so conditioned to be pleasing to others, accusing a woman of behaving in an unpleasing manner is like an automatic shut off button that manipulative people use against us. Accu [...]

    12. All women should be forced to read this book. Traits that are inherent to us as women, when allowed to drive the way we function at work, allow others to walk all over us while we ask for more and thank them for doing it. Even if you think you're a strong, independent woman (which I like to believe I am), this book will point out important things that you do at the office that help keep your pay at less that of your male counterparts and help you get looked over every time there's a round of pro [...]

    13. This was awesome. I wish I had read it years ago. It helps with every day life as well. this is not about what is wrong with men or women but rather practical advice for how to act and speak at work so that men will listen and we won't get upstaged. I suggest this for all women.

    14. Loved some of the advice. Some was cliche, some was quite old fashioned. Overall, I'm going to stop saying sorry, or offering to do menial tasks.

    15. Starting from the naïve socialization until sex discrimination, most women are way too far from achieving satisfactory successful career life. Lois Frankel addresses in this amazing book, Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office, 101 unconscious mistakes working women do that sabotage their careers. All of these mistakes are results of being socialized with stereotypical norms and roles. Lois's main argument is that women themselves are the ones who carry out the whole responsibility. If they hap [...]

    16. Reading "Nice Girls" back in 2004 was a bit of a shock to me - an unpleasant one. So many of the negative behaviors Lois Frankel describes were things I did in the office on a regular basis. These behaviors were so ingrained in me: don't be too aggressive, apologize profusely for any misdeed, be grateful for any crumb tossed my way, and I sat with my foot folded under me ALL the time. I do agree with Frankel that it's difficult for women to get ahead by always being a "nice girl." Her book struc [...]

    17. This was an interesting read and while I don't agree to all the points the author made I still have the impression of getting some valuable insights. However, since I don't work in a big company I believe that some parts of the book just didn't address me. There was definitely a point when I felt like 'I've heard that one before' but the author remained a little vague on what to do. But then, I don't expect someone to provide me all the answers. The book was a good place to start and I'll most l [...]

    18. I need to clear out my library of unread books and am doing so by reading them. This one was given to me at a woman's leadership conference and so far falling short of the other book "Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman."UPDATEIt was okay. Wouldn't recommend as there are definitely better books out there, but she said some true things and has some okay tips. I probably make the majority of the mistakes, but am not as bothered. The alternative feels unaccessable and not someone I'd like to work for [...]

    19. Self-help books aren't really my thing and the tone in this book is often condescending, like she's talking to people who are emotionally adolescents. That said, some of her points are great and no matter how much education in women's studies you or I or anyone has, the socialization we received as girls continues to cripple us in adult life. It's inescapable.I'm not exactly a shrinking violet but I recognized myself in some of her examples. Recommended for women in industries dominated by men a [...]

    20. I could not identify any real added value in this book. There are some common sense ideas, while other points are simply soaked with feminism. I went through the book in hope of finding some rational advice to improve my business attitude. After around 10 randomly-chosen chapters I gave up Maybe the book would get a higher grade from less experienced readers (in their early twenties, for example). For seasoned business women, it's a waste of time.

    21. I will definitely take some of these ideas on board! I really like the ideas about confidence and taking pride of your work, but also about putting yourself first. I think that this is something that I need to work on so I have added these notes to my work desk.

    22. Written by top career coach L.P.Frankel, ‘101 mistakes’ aims to guide women away from the ‘act like a girl’ stereotypes taught to them as young ladies, which according to the author they carry onto womanhood.The book begins with a self-assessment questionnaire to help you identify what your strengths and weakness are, so you can concentrate more on your weakness. Each section includes a case study and bullet pointed summaries to help you deal with each problem.I liked that Frankel kept e [...]

    23. I felt that most of this book was a how-to for those who want to be a closed-minded corporate robot. Don't bring food to share at work? Don't have long hair? Well, men don't do it, so you shouldn't do it either. Speak at meetings the way men do: loud, confident and don't forget to be the first to speak and never the last. Respond to emails the way men do. Dress the way men do. Use social media the way men do (which means hardly ever). Try not to smile so much because men don't smile that much. I [...]

    24. I don't remember the last time I had this strong of a love-hate relationship with a book. Dr. Frankel definitely offers some practical tips on mistakes commonly made in the workplace (not just women but men as well.) There are some "mistakes" she lists that I found to be ridiculous such as women wearing their hair too long, or not wearing enough make-up. The fundamental flaw with her book is that when she tells us to "play the game" she is referring to workplace politics that, in the corporate w [...]

    25. My personal bias got in the way when it comes to reading in this book. I feel it gave a great deal of useful information and I will take most of it to heart. I could not get her past her admitted prejudice against tattoos. While I could understand what she commented on about most businesses have a bad opinion of people who choose to modify their body appearance. That does not mean that this attitude has not been changing in the workforce nor does it mean that we should except the sheep mentality [...]

    26. There was some good advice in this book, but I felt like a lot of the mistakes were overgeneralized. Consider mistake 45, "making miracles": the author says that when you meet an impossible deadline, you've only set the bar higher for next time. I understand her reasoning, but I work in tech, where the ability to meet tight deadlines is highly valued. Think Scotty of the original Star Trek: he was the only engineer with the necessary skills and knowledge to pull off miracles, making him absolute [...]

    27. Some great tips for women about how to stop undermining their success with subtle/subconscious habits (think smiling too much, talking too softly, tolerating innappropriate comments, letting other take credit for ideas, tilting head when talking, and lack of professional networking). A lot of the advice in the book seemed obvious to me (I wouldn't let someone present something as "their idea" when I had obviously brought it up in the past) but there was some good advice to be gleaned from this b [...]

    28. I loved this and I hated this. Lois P. Frankel is a total pragmatist, which can be tough for an idealist like me to swallow. Throughout "Nice Girls" she argues that women who want to get ahead in business have to learn to play by the rules created by white men in corporate America. We have to learn to live and play within that structure.Yet I've always held onto this starry-eyed idea that we should be able to create lives for ourselves that honor who we are and what we value. And this is probabl [...]

    29. This came highly recommended from a blog I read, and I can see why. Thankfully it's not all new to me because an excellent friend of mine has mastered these skills and has been coaching me for some time. (What can I say? I'm a slow learner.)In essence, it's showing how your normal life skills and instincts (be nice, don't make waves, don't be pushy) have to be tweaked while you're at work if you're in a corporate environment or working primarily with men. (Otherwise many of these may not apply, [...]

    30. My overall impression of this book was that it was advice from a few decades ago. Yeah, she updated it with, "Don't post and tweet stuff you'll regret." Brilliant. But she seemed like a grandmotherly voice to me and that made it difficult for me to take seriously. That being said, I need to be honest. There is the world where I like to think that I work and where I actually work. I like to think that I'm building my career in a modern work environment where gender equality is assumed and diversi [...]

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